We Don’t Say That in Our House
I’ve realized that the words we use with our kids can make a world of difference in how they respond to us, and how they see themselves and others. It’s not always easy to reframe the things we say in the heat of the moment, but over time, I’ve found that swapping out certain phrases creates a more peaceful, positive atmosphere at home.
Instead of commenting on appearances we say, “Everybody’s body is different."
Let’s face it, kids can be brutally honest and sometimes say things that make us cringe. But rather than responding with frustration, I’ve found that gently reframing their observation teaches them that everyone’s body is unique, and that’s okay. It’s a small but powerful way to build body positivity and self-confidence.
Instead of "Eat Your Vegetables!" we say, "You don’t have to eat them, but they’re here if you feel like them."
Getting kids to eat veggies is always a battle, right? Instead of turning mealtimes into a power struggle, I’ve started giving them the option. I’ve noticed they’re much more likely to try something new when they don’t feel forced. Having vegetables on the plate, without pressure, keeps the invitation open for them to explore new tastes on their own terms.
Instead of "Stop hitting!" we say, "Keep your hands and feet to yourself, please."
When tempers flare, it can be tempting to just yell, “Stop!” But by giving clear instructions like “keep your hands and feet to yourself,” I’m helping my kids understand boundaries in a way that feels less like a scolding and more like a reminder of how to behave. It’s all about keeping things calm and respectful.
Instead of "Clean up your toys!" we say, "Could you find all the yellow blocks for me?"
Ah, the never-ending toy mess! Asking kids to “clean up” can feel overwhelming to them, but turning it into a game or specific task makes it manageable—and even fun! When I ask them to find all the yellow blocks, they feel accomplished as they complete small steps, and suddenly the whole cleanup process is a lot less stressful for everyone.
These little changes in how we speak might seem minor, but they have had a big impact on our daily life. By shifting the language we use, we’re not just teaching our kids good behaviour—we’re also showing them kindness, patience, and the importance of treating others (and themselves) with respect.
What phrases do you use in your home that help keep the peace? I’d love to hear!
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